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I know you're trying to look out for me, and I appreciate that, but even if the US doesn't work out, assuming I can fix the ECFMG issue, there are mutually acceptable countries like Australia or Canada on the cards.
A step down salary wise, but still better than the UK.
It's not as cut and dry as the US or my girlfriend.
I can only hope you trust me when I say that I've been with her long enough that I don't think this is a concern. If not, well I'm helpless to change your mind!
There are already dozens of men trying to chat her up on Insta, that's a fact of life for any pretty Indian girl, but she summarily blocks them even without reply. I see no reason not to rest the weight of my confidence on her, assuming her tiny frame could take it.
Err.. Thanks? I really don't think it'll come to that, not that we don't fight (a lot). Just not on those terms.
Is it somehow worse for Indian girls than whites girls? Or is it just that the kind of man to ask for bob and vagene online would more readily proposition an Indian girl instead of a different race?
Indian men usually have negative rizz for one (apologies for the zoomer slang, it basically means charisma or game).
I've slid into DMs with success before, and the way these guys go about it pains me. The first and most important principle is to not to lay it on too thick and maintain plausible deniability.
To an extent, many of them don't have better options, since Tinder in India might have even worse odds of getting laid per hour of swiping. Dating outside the workplace, college, or mutual friends is rather difficult and fraught.
I can't speak authoritatively as to what ails the white women of the world, since I haven't dated any, but in my eyes, common sense dictates that if they have to deal with the boobs and vagene crowd that leaks out onto the wider internet, Indian women have it worse. They just don't bitch about it as much!
*bobs
I'm sorry, I've already said I'm a bad Indian haha
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