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I was 21 when I lost my virginity. After that I've had a "normal" sex life, which certainly doesn't mean a Chad sex life; one-night stands, weird little quasi-relationships, and finally now 5 years of marriage (pushing towards six) with its assorted ups and downs, along with 2 children.
What I remembered most of all from the terrible-feeling years before losing my virginity was not just horniness, though of course there was that, but the overwhelming wish to just be normal. I think that really is a major component of inceldom and all the assorted cultural quirks; the overbearing belief that you're not normal, you're not doing the normal thing that the society is focused on telling you that every normal person is doing all the time, and you either keep reaching towards that normality any way you can think of or give up and start stewing in your abnormality and hatred towards normies as the ultimate form of cope.
Of course, the infuriating paradox of it all is that if you just want to use sex as a tool for normality, it immediately becomes subconsciously obvious to women that you are not normal and not someone to have sex with, which makes it all the harder. Of course I also remember reading things to this effect during my sexless years and them just making me angrier due to the zen koan nature of it all.
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