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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 3, 2023

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Those who make folding impossible make resentment inevitable.

Yeah, the idea of honorable, celibate life paths was something we lost when we became less religious. I think that (rough ballpark) five or so percent of people aren't good candidates for marriage, relationships, and children. It's like the Army...fifteen percent of people don't have the cognitive horsepower to be Army cooks or janitors. You've got the intellectually disabled, treatment resistant schizophrenia, different kinds of physical disability. Those are often no one's fault, but even so, they aren't great candidates for relationships and may not be able to form mutually beneficial relationships. Then you've got the traumatized, the unattractive, the asexual...every generation is going to have some of these people, and having them become long-haul truck drivers or travel nurses or neurosurgeons who are "too busy to date" doesn't sound like a bad place to park them.

Can you elaborate about how some make folding impossible? Are you speaking only about the difficulty of avoiding taxation, or do you posit other ways that opting out, MGTOW-style, is insufficient/impossible?

(As to taxation: I can see some might the on average unequal contributions/disbursements for men and women a source of resentment, but I hardly think this is universal amongst unsuccessful men—consider that at least some are socialist—while plenty of successful men object to taxation on grounds unrelated to the disparate impact between men and women.)

You cannot be honest about it without being judged as a loser.