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Being asexual is not a falsifiable epistemic position, it's a personality trait.
I see the analogy as being someone deeply in love, say a parasocial relationship that's utterly unrequited. They suffer immensely, yet can't shake off the shackles as much as they want to. This causes them to go to a public forum and ask for help in dispelling these thoughts and desires that are unachievable yet cause them a great deal of pain.
Of course, the situation is even worse, since the object of their affection is outright nonexistent.
In such a scenario, who wouldn't want to help them sever that love that achieves nothing but sorrow with nothing to show for it?
I do pity the religious, and particularly the people who are just sane enough to know that the desires they feel are likely unfounded, yet by some quirk of biology are fundamentally unable to get rid of the same even if they rationally can see otherwise.
Of course, I'm self aware enough to see that you likely pity me, and I appreciate that, because it's better to pity than to hate, and at least you're living up to your standards as a good Christian.
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