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From Trump “she’s not my type” does seem credible. If you say the quiet part out loud that she was older than he would go for.
And embedded in this a lot of girls still expect guys to be the aggressor. I still remember the first love of my life rejecting my advances as I dropped her off at her place and saying no a dozen times. And then sending me a text 10 minutes later asking why I didn’t sleep with her. Which isn’t completely related but does apply to a lot of trump comments.
Trump does seem like someone who’s a believer in the alpha male stereotype where he should be the aggressor and no doubt a lot of women have rewarded him for that. So he very well may have been intimate with the accuser. Something completely not explored (because of it’s 30 years ago) she may have been into his assertiveness. But now that he’s a white supremacist, racists, anti-trans politician it’s rape.
It would have been credible had he not misidentified her as Marla Maples in a photograph during a deposition.
That was a very funny blunder from the deposition. The best explanation on this front remains that Donald Trump is functionally blind. He frequently misidentifies people right in front of him and all the notes he's seen actively using are written in a comically large font size. I don't really understand exactly why a billionaire can't use contact lenses, lasik, or whatever other space age vision technology is available, but it's funny how much legal liability he's willing to endure just to avoid being filmed wearing glasses.
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Most agentic young woman.
Girls/women are often indeed extremely passive when it comes to dating. I hope you sealed the deal, whether by immediately turning back to her place or by eventually somehow slow-rolling it. Such experiences are pretty common, though, hence their contribution to the coffee emoji meme spreading like wildfire.
A lot of times, a “no” from women just means try harder, try differently, or try later such that they can better protect their wonderfulness, maintain plausible deniability, and sidestep accountability. So that they can tell themselves and/or their friends that “omg it just happened, teehee.”
Chad pussy-grabbers vs. Virgin boundary-respecters.
It’s why there was so much seething and pearl-clutching from the online-left over Trump saying to just “grab ‘em by the pussy.” Trump stumbled upon something, inadvertently touching a third rail.
Such a remark from Trump was a reminder that high status men can just go full steam ahead and plow through the “rules” that lower status men have to abide by—and that women, ultimately, are happy to be submissive to things like male status and fame in the moment, even if they may retrospectively decide otherwise. Sometimes years or decades later, if the original encounter occurred at all.
Mainstream progressivism insists that male sexual success is driven by the extent to which men are dutiful, respectful male feminist allies. High-status men casually grabbing women by the pussy or creampie-ing them in the stairwell ruins the illusion of male sexual egalitarianism, the illusion of lack of female hypergamy, the illusion of a magical Just World where male sexual success is dictated by whether they have socially progressive attitudes.
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