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Buddy, if you're a med student and on track to becoming a doctor, you really have to have fallen down the ugly tree, hit every branch and ended up with a pinecone in your ass for you to end up dating someone so decidedly below average.
Presumably you're a US med student, so you're on track to making around $250k a year unless the AIs take yer jerbs, at which point you can easily end up with hot women lining up to date you while employing herculean amounts of patience in the face of your autism.
In order of sense and sensibility:
Workout. Can't cure ugly, but big muscles can distract from an unfortunate appearance.
Look forward to a hot nurse or some other woman, who if not outright gold-digging, still has a vested interest in landing a decent guy, showing up in form-fitting scrubs to tease your decidedly non-autistic dick until you get the message.
Visit Thailand. Fuck hot women. Adopt one and her water buffalo for the long haul.
I'm no slouch in the weight room: bench 225 squat 315 dead 345 weigh 160lb @ 5'6". I suppose I could try to look like a physique bodybuilder or something lol.
I am not sure that $250k is enough to get a Western woman to be with someone she finds disgusting on a visceral, biological level. I suppose that people vary in their disgust tolerance. Certainly my time as a medical student has really altered my feelings around disgust...I don't mind it as much, it doesn't matter as much. Some of my classmates feel differently, some feel the same way. I'd suspect that you need around a million a year to get someone to put up with that kind of disgust...I've heard that Silicon Valley was packed with fit multimillionaire virgins!
Sounds like that is asking to be divorced. Worse, if you are unlucky and she's quite disgusted by you. Not that there is anything at all wrong with that; I'd do the same in her shoes!
.. what makes you so ugly ? Being prematurely bald ?
Being too short ? Deformed, unusual face ?
Or is it all a mental problem, body dysmorphia ?
Premature baldness plus subpar facial appearance and 5’6” stature. Nothing that a medical professional would call a deformity, though I might benefit from jaw surgery.
Then you’ve got the autism to add to that. There have been studies that showed that neurotypicals (that’s normal people) judged autists as awkward based on two seconds of footage of them socially interacting, and even from snapshots of social interaction. That might not be a physical deformity, but it sure functions an awful lot like one, if people can be like “That guy’s awkward” after watching him talk to his friend across the room. For two seconds.
As such…I think a million a year sounds closer to what it would take to get someone who’s not morbidly obese, can work a full time job, not a danger to herself or others, and not addicted to hard drugs to endure that kind of disgust. I don’t blame people for that…I mean, it’d take a lot of convincing to get most people to be with someone they were viscerally disgusted by!
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