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You're a med student, so you'll eventually have some money. Spend it fixing your shit. Get a personal trainer, stylist, and a shrink. You'd be amazed how quickly you're qualified for a partner who's not terrible. Brilliant supermodel? Maybe not. Average weight, socially acceptable normie? Achievable. Your dating appeal will increase monotonically for the next ten plus years as long as you're not getting fatter, and even then. In the wise words of Peter Griffin, "Men aren't fat, only fat women are fat." https://youtube.com/watch?v=nulGvzYkDoQ
You seem extremely optimistic. I've seen short guys built like Greek gods that were with morbidly obese women. A Special Forces colonel with a wife that was an abusive shitbag. Like. I just want someone that's got an excellent chance of being able to wipe their own butt at 60 and live independently. That's it. Just...don't be abusive to me or any kids we have, and be able to live independently till 60.
Eh...I know eight short guys. Four have had partners that I know of; four have not.
Special Forces colonel. Wound up with a pretty wife that turned out to be an abusive sack of shit.
Two guys that were built like Greek gods. Think physique bodybuilding competitor. Morbidly obese partners; they were decent human beings as far as I know.
Future neurosurgeon. Charismatic enough for a career in politics. Has an average-looking fiancee with a decent career.
I know a few short medical students and residents that can't get dates. Family med doc with average charisma and 5'4" ain't enough to get a partner that isn't morbidly obese, unless you're like top 0.1 percent charisma...and if you are that charismatic, medicine's an interesting choice.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with this; selecting some men by lot to be nurses and caretakers for women who need them - whether through bad choices or bad luck - doesn't seem like a terrible system to have going.
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