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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 24, 2023

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There are a lot of hobbies women have shown plenty of initiative and creativity in. It's just that the type of hobbies an average woman dedicates her leisure time to tends to be very different than that of men.

Most women seem to have a lower tolerance for hobbies that do not have some level of Social affirmation and interaction along the process. They are not as easily nerd sniped as men are.

I can blow a whole weekend, not speaking to a single soul, working on some obscure programming project like writing a TiddlyWiki launcher to reduce memory usage over the default Node.js launcher. A pointless investment of effort that will be of limited help for my employment prospects. No one else is going to use it or even see it. But it's fun though!

Women here make smarter choices. They demand more from their hobbies rather than just a short burst of satisfaction from solving some obscure problem. At the very least they expect it to have Social value. Though this may be changing with Social media addiction.

Footnote:

Reading what I wrote above, I realize, I have issues.

I can blow a whole weekend, not speaking to a single soul, working on some obscure programming project like writing a TiddlyWiki launcher to reduce memory usage over the default Node.js launcher. A pointless investment of effort that will be of limited help for my employment prospects. No one else is going to use it or even see it. But it's fun though!

Dude, read some of my Friday Fun Thread posts. That sounds like a perfect weekend. It keeps you sharp.

Women here make smarter choices. They demand more from their hobbies rather than just a short burst of satisfaction from solving some obscure problem. At the very least they expect it to have Social value. Though this may be changing with Social media addiction.

I wonder if this behavior is truly more effective. It has a downside where one may feel unmotivated to do anything if no one is there to see them do it. They may also find it difficult to start tasks or leisure activities unless they have a group to join them.

It's not that women don't have "initiative" or "creativity" - plenty of female FAANG engineers show those. But a women is much less likely to ... purely of her own initiative, never having heard of the idea before. I agree, generally.

Reading what I wrote above, I realize, I have issues.

Not sure what this means, tbh? Your example weekend sounds fine. It also builds skill and technique for future, useful projects. How is it worse than gossiping about celebrities with friends in any way? There doesn't have to be a "you really WANT friendship but suppress that desire by doing lonely projects" psychoanalytic "issues", coding can just have something interesting that predominant forms of casual social interaction don't.