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If this is actually the case, then I wonder about the tactical wisdom of including it here. A lot of men (let alone women) don't react well to complaints like this (which of course the theory predicts) and so you may lose credibility here.
If the family is already susceptible enough to progressive talking points to try to upend current social dynamics stuff like this might just cost you weirdness points you need.
I don't know this father. But, for a normie, I'd mainly focus on the lack of evidence for trans care and the incoherency of this doctrine . The part where you touch on the wisdom of separating girls from boys in sleepovers is a good example.
That is the sort of place where the ideology meets reality on safeguarding. Well, exploit the cognitive dissonance there. How much is he willing to pay to be indulgent? How far is he willing to go?
The argument is usually about welfare; emphasizing that it doesn't help welfare and is likely to harm the child and safeguarding practices is your best bet.
TBH: I know you say you have a ton of other stuff in there but this section already makes the letter too long. People don't necessarily want to read disconfirming evidence, so you have tot make it as easy as possible for them.
I would suggest as concise as possible (as someone incapable of this I recognize the irony) hitting the key notes in as neutral a tone as you can manage. Make it clear you're open to talk, but don't swamp with a monologue.
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