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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 10, 2023

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I didn't say advocating kids not reporting it, I said teaching kids it is shameful to. By associating discomfort with being touched with homophobia and teaching that homophobia is bad, they end up teaching kids that their feelings of discomfort being touched are shameful thus making them afraid to report it.

That doesn't follow. We teach kids about bad touching regardless of who from.

This is a laughable assertion. If even 10% of the 10% least troubling trans tictok stuff was adult men doing the same with little girls we'd call a spade a spade.

I strongly disagree. We teach kids about bad touching in certain situations (notably straight men touching girls) and completely downplay and excuse it in others (notably women and gay men touching boys). Or, at the very least, that's what my experience was growing up being repeatedly told that such touching (including on multiple occasions directly grabbing my penis) wasn't sexual and I was being too sensitive. Maybe the movement has gotten better in the years since, but I don't see it from my perspective.

Gay men are still notorious for being handsy and not recognizing the word ‘no’, at least in their own communities.

Never come across that in all my years dealing with CSE or something ant of my own kids were told. Every poece of literature, every lesdon was always about where was being touched not by who.

Certainly not by men, who were if anything more reported. Even for actually innocent things.

If there is a bias, it would probably be towards women on boys being less serious, which is i agree deeprooted culturally seen as not being as bad. But all the official stuff tries to counteract that. With varying degrees of success.

Every poece of literature, every lesdon was always about where was being touched not by who.

To an extent, I agree that's what is taught in lessons, though I think the emphasis on female over male victimization in such lessons as well as the greater emphasis on bigotry bad in other lessons works against it. But what's taught in lessons matters little when boys actual reports are downplayed and ignored, when boys are told that them being creeped out by someone's lesser behavior is no big deal and that making a big deal about it is shameful (due to bigotry) they learn to not report later more egregious behaviors expecting the same treatment.

Certainly not by men, who were if anything more reported. Even for actually innocent things.

Yes, men are often reported for innocent behavior. This is I think rooted in the same bias that causes boys' complaints to not be taken seriously: men are seen as sexual actors, so their behavior is seen as more sexual while behavior directed at them is seen as less sexual.

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