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Certainly. When I first started watching, I was clinically depressed due to the emotional abuse from bad friends. I was also oblivious to many social norms due to autism, and was missing most social instincts most humans have.
The show helped me in three big ways:
Depression: I found joy in once again watching a well-written adventure sitcom akin to DuckTales or TaleSpin which I’d grown up with. Most episodes were slice-of-life, some were adventures. Mostly it’s a comedy, but there is genuine drama. It’s an ensemble show, with one character as ostensible lead but not as the focus of the majority of episodes. Each main character has goals, fears, quirks, and strength of character; each one of them was fleshed out enough to be the star of her own show. While I was watching, the depression lifted; it was like microdosing ecstasy, from what I hear. The depression lifted enough for me to finish my college degree after four years away from school, and that got me the third best job I’ve ever had, where I worked for the past ten years.
Social instincts: The show touted its philosophical core, The Elements of Harmony, five relationship virtues no relationship can survive without. Honesty, Loyalty, Kindness, Generosity, and Laughter were what my world revolved around for the next few years. I was able to examine my past and present relationships to see what was lacking, and I found all the bad memories of my bad friends were traceable to an injury to an Element. My family relationships blossomed as I sought to add Elements consciously. Curiously, many of my symptoms of autism disappeared; I think the Elements became a prosthetic set of instincts to replace what I’d been oblivious to.
Social norms: The show featured inherently silly people, in the form of small and colorful horses, in a generally realistic rural town modeled after Ohio. They had to deal with jobs, groceries, school, free time vs hobbies, small business ups and downs, grad student life, and more. They displayed pretty standard social norms, when they weren’t being silly. It became something for me to model. I planned and ran a really nice graduation party for a friend of mine, and everyone thought it was a huge success. I couldn’t have done it as easily without the show’s guidance.
When I started watching, I never expected to become a hardcore fan. Yet it has been a net positive in my life since that day, and I don’t regret a minute of it.
Thank you for explaining, that makes a lot of sense and I can see how it was very helpful to your situation.
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