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Women are liars in one way but this is not something that is being blamed here. The one way they are generally liar is that they rarely tell a man to their face that they find him repulsive, disgusting, or creepy.
So these low-value men don't often get the feedback needed to reconsider they way before going and interacting with women.
Which makes sense and I would not blame women for, as being too honest (perceived as harsh) with a man [with poor social skills] could lead to violence.
What I think most men here could call women is delusional.
Women will give advice to the population of men who date as if they were only speaking to the men that they have dated (the attractive ones).
They find the attractive men in their life too casual, too promiscuous, too impolite or callous, so they tell all men to be more 'romantic'. Autistic nerds read that advice -the actual target, attractive men don't need to read the fish's advice on fishing- and think they need to do more romantic gestures to get a woman, while being more aggressive would make them closer to a fisherman.
Rape is a kink. Ladies love serial killers. There's all kind of kinks out there.
I've never heard of the kink of 'unassuming nerd that nobody respects who let women tell him how to live his life'. Only as a character in a Jewish comedy.
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