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Sure, modern adaptations like to recast them as fun romances in pretty frocks. That's the success of Bridgerton, as it took the Regency Romance genre and just made a few changes to bring it up to modern tastes. But Austen is not a Regency Romance (though she might have influenced the genre) and her practicality about "these are the economic facts of life" as well as "what is marriage about? what is love?" are not the same "marry rich" or "get your own money then you can chase the sexual passion" tropes.
She contrasts the mere mercantile marriages for money, which are often unhappy for various reasons, and the romantic entanglements where it's all about passion and sex (from the imprudence of Lydia running off with Wickham, to other relationships in the novels where the attraction is superficial, based on a romantic notion derived from pop culture, and is often revealed to be shallow, fake, and undependable). 'Find someone who you can respect and who respects you, with similar values, and both of you live by a code of honour' is her ultimate message. Elizabeth Bennett gets a rich husband, but not all her heroines do. What matters more is someone compatible, honest, and virtuous. And that holds for what the men should be like, as well as the women.
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