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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 6, 2023

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but you were discussing raw attractiveness.

I mean, several recursions ago I was just talking about dudes wanting to wear dresses. Other guy had to bring sexuality into it.

How is pointing at revealed popular preferences not even wrong? It's clearly less not even wrong than pointing at arbitrarily picked runway models.

I'm not necessarily claiming my poop is better than yours, yet we feel the need to fling it just the same.

It's the equivalent of me writing an effortpost about some survey data/psych experiments on undergrads suggesting that we date people with traits held by our opposite sex parent, and all my friends find it eerie how they've ended up with girlfriends similar to their mom. If I show people photos of women of varying races, men will invariably show a strong preference for women of the same race as their mom. Ceteris paribus, controlling for variables like weight/clothing/whatever, men show a statistically significant preference for women that look similar to their mom. Season with some choice quotes from Freud and myths from antiquity. Do you now believe that the Oedipal complex drives human sexuality, and that we have a genetic imperative to fuck the closest thing to our mom that we can find?

Just the fact that you agree all those other considerations (money, status, body 'archetypes,' flavors of the week, lineage, etc that you call confounders) feed into sexuality and 'mate choice' (to sound like a sperg) more or less lines up with my main thesis that sexuality is fairly plastic according to the norms du jour. I don't deny that there are genetic influences, but I do disagree with throwing out a bathtub full of babies to focus on a single axis of sexuality.

edit: Maybe this post is closer to my thesis than what I linked to above.