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naraburns  nihil supernum  1yr ago (text post)   5124 thread views

Small-Scale Question Sunday for March 5, 2023

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Hiding your views from your SO is probably not a good base for a relationship, at least not in the long term. I mean, if you just have somebody to chat and occasionally tumble under the sheets, who cares, but if you are building life together, at least in terms of years, it's not gonna work. OpSec may be good to not share accounts, have separate computers, etc., maybe not even show up at the same forums if they are of a variety where participation can lead to bad consequences - but there's difference between OpSec and hiding your views.

Yeah, but revealing you're a nazi, or something as 'bad' as a nazi but in a different direction, is also rather bad for a relationship - in most cases worse than hiding views. I think one could somewhat-honestly claim to be a traditional conservative (or equivalent)

If you're nazi, and you have a relationship with a person that thinks being a nazi is a deal breaker, then your relationship is doomed. It's not like some tiny flaw you can ignore. And tbh, this is not the way to live your life - you can't be a proper nazi (any time you march with a tiki torch you risk your SO finding out, where's the fun in that?) and you can't rely on your SO to support you, so what is left? Why would you want to be in such relationship - just for sex? That's not going to work on any significant term. I'd expect if someone is a nazi, their SO would be at least OK with them being a nazi, if not also one.

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