The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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"Please don't kill yourself, something retarded might happen." cue the Joker quote on life being a comedy and all that.
I was very close to pulling the plug a few years ago. Am I thankful I didn't do it? Not really. Life still sucks about the same if not more, it's a baseline level of suck that I got more used to over time. I did rationalize to myself that I will still keep the possibility of exercising the nuclear option if things truly take a turn for the bad, let's say I develop some kind of debilitating disease or get crippled in a car accident and join our fallen brother with 2 arms and a head, but that option is always there, you can exercise it whenever you wish, it doesn't have to be now. As long as you can bear the shittyness of the moment, you can wait till things truly get shitty to reevaluate whether you can exercise that option or not, you might just be a different person by then, in the sense there could be some kind of change in your brain chemistry/wiring that makes that option less appealing, because by god does that option go against millions of years of evolution. Understand this doesn't assume your life circumstances getting better, but your self/mind getting better.
Also, the thought of my mom and dad finding out about the news is honestly too much to bear, and in my personal calculus tips the scale against it. A friend of mine died in a car accident at the age of 26 (potentially suicide), his mom's reaction to it was not pretty to say the least, it took the strength of 4 adult men to keep her from attempting to jump out of the balcony many times a day over a week.
Also do keep in mind that it is the final option. You might as well try to do a whole lot of unethical things to turn your life around before you truly have to reach for that. You can lie on your CV to get a better job, get plastic surgery to get more girls, whatever. Surely dishonesty is preferable to death?
Of course, all of what I said assumes that the struggle is entirely mental and not physical, if you are in unbearable physical pain, at least consider seeking out the most expensive potential help/treatment before the final call. It's not like your bank account transfers to the afterlife. If not, do consider gratefulness that your pain can be literally wished away as hard as that may be, not everyone's can.
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