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I think there are many, many people in the world who think they deserve more than they have, certainly. It's fair to say that those people's self-evaluation is frequently questionable. I don't think this tendency is confined to women, though, nor do I think it is more out of control in women than in men. There are some areas where it is more tolerated in men (especially if those men are already high status), and others where it is more tolerated in women (especially if those women are already high status).
Agree that a sense of entitlement is pretty universal, and I assume is socially mediated rather than caused by one's sex. That said I think it's an easy case to make, however, that this is split along gendered lines. (I will try to pull only from my understanding of the literature surrounding psychological differences between the sexes without leaning on any evopsych mumbo jumbo)
Men resent and will misrepresent, to themselves and others, in no particular order and by no means exhaustive, their immaturity/narrow shoulders/weak chin/small stature/small penis/wispy facial hair/flabby body or physical weakness/getting outskilled in sport.
Similarly, but sitting on the other end of the binary, women resent and misrepresent their current or historical romantic partner(s)/or lack thereof/social status/getting old/looking shabby/compensating with make-up/small breasts/thick waist/narrow hips.
All of these things are in common as they're all measures used (often unconsciously) to judge reproductive and general fitness (I'm certain the specific features in question vary from one culture to another, and I don't think there's a good reason to obsess over at least the immutable ones) in a sexual dimorphism-specific context. An introspective or anxious person paying close attention might notice themselves automatically running this sort of checklist against themselves (or their friends/enemies) from time to time, without ever appearing in your "cone of consciousness". Any perceived attack along any one of these vectors is almost guaranteed to provoke an angry or upset response, and rightly so. It's taken, whether knowingly or not, as a direct challenge to one's own viability as a lifeform. If the charges are legitimate then one is offended multiply, if only because it rings in your own ear as the truth and should be taken to mean that you are, in fact, less fit along some dimension than your peers.
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Here's the heart of the matter: women actually have some evidence that they are worth more than they can get. We're talking about dating here, correct? Not about salary, workplace respect, etc.: sex and dating. Women aren't campaigning for equality in this realm of life, are they? No.
The evidence being her individual popularity on dating sites. An unlimited supply of men who express interest in her sexually. You would instantly understand how this would affect the self-evaluation of a man if it were happening to him, if there were an endless queue of women waiting for their chance with him.
The problem: this doesn't actually indicate a woman's SMV. A possible solution to this would be to indicate a woman's percentile rank to her on the app (I think OnlyFans does this?). Though this might be so damaging to the female psyche that no woman woman with an average rank would subject herself to it. Maybe not, if they're really looking for love.
Yes, OF and other sites in the space will tell you what percentage you're in. I've heard that it's trivial to get into the top 1% of all creators on OF or Fansly, but it's going beyond that into the decimals that makes you truly special.
I suppose this is to say that maybe it's not worth bothering with, then.
That seems counter intuitive that it's trivial to be top one-percent.
The trick is that a huge percentage of the site's creators are likely inactive. If 90% of the accounts are inactive and 8% are active but and either just getting the ball rolling or declining after finding the juice wasn't worth the squeeze but still have a sub or two who haven't cancelled the top half of active creators are in the top 1% of all creators that month.
Yup - this is why all the weird "all attractive women are becoming OF models" never struck with me. According to the first article I found, as of August 2022, they had 2.1 million creators. Now, if you do some fairly quick math - there's about 750 million between the EU & the US, the two main places where you can easily be an OF model.
So, if you divide the age categories evenly (which isn't true, but it's close enough), you get about 56 million women between the ages of 18-29 overall. So, oh no, almost 5% of women are now on OnlyFans, and more importantly, it's likely to be a big chunk of the appx. women near the top.
But then, like you said, it seems amazingly easy to get into the top 1%, and almost all models say they're top 5%. Which tell me when it comes to active accounts that are posting regularly, we're closing to probably 250k 'active' accounts, and all of the sudden, how many non-US/EU accounts there are have to actually be looked into, before the overreaction to the rise of OF is worried about.
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I think it's based on earnings, so it's like "economic 1%." That said, as I mentioned, it's apparently pretty easy to get into the top 1% so long as you have a fanbase/customer base towards the triple-digits. The long tail of digital sex work is very long and very flat, I guess you could say.
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