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And that sounds sensible and prudent and forward looking. Until finally you're both ready to have kids, but it doesn't happen. Or you find that you're never ready - there's always just one more thing, and then it'll happen, until it doesn't. Or you break up anyway and it's because you don't have kids. Or you get hit by a bus.
I'm not judging you. You're in the same boat as a lot of other people. But then it can't be easily put down to "the reason fertility levels have dropped is because women are too fussy and waiting too long to settle down and have kids".
Right, so until then, it's sensible. I get that this is a common failure mode, but given that I have concrete plans set in place to avoid it, and have taken all of the necessary steps to realize those plans, it's hardly fair to lump me in with people whose plans have failed. This is a fully general counterargument--you can't just say "people fail at this pretty frequently, therefore you will too" because there are plenty who really do succeed at making and executing these plans.
I agree that it's not just that women are too fussy; my point is that the factors which have caused that have also made it more difficult to have children in other ways.
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