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Come on. Comparing implied consent to kissing, an act that lasts barely a few seconds (unless we're talking half an hour of tongue wrestling, and that's at the very least fucking weird if you continue to do it while your partner is not reciprocating), with penetration? Implied consent to initiating, sure.
Granted, I can't attest to any personal experience of fucking a disinterested woman, but it's more or less common knowledge that penetration can be uncomfortable or painful without arousal. It's not the same principle as "grabbing a kiss or a feel without asking", no. If you and your wife are into that kind of thing, you're free to have it. Not manufacture consensus that it's a normal and expected marriage thing.
I'm not manufacturing consensus, I argue for a minority understanding, from a minority position within it (since most defenders of the old marriage norms are trad and I have a liberal perspective with liberal preferences).
I'm not saying it's a normal and expected marriage thing now, but it was in the past, and it wasn't a great moral wrong now rectified. People who wanted a heavy marriage got their way in the past, and now those who want a light marriage get their way.
As far as you know. An advantage of the old norms is that people didn’t have to fake enjoyment every time, lest it be some terrible crime.
no pain, no foul, then, if that is your true objection.
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