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I've been in a happy interracial and cross-cultural marriage for 10 years (my wife is Filipino), and we have two interracial kids. AMA, I guess?
One thing I will note is that I have a deep-seated xenophilia; a huge proportion of my relationships have been with women of different nationalities and races. In general I find it makes things a lot more interesting. That said, I think class differences trump cultural differences a lot of the time, and the vast majority of my relationships have been with women who went to elite colleges and/or had advanced degrees (and often came from money). I would feel far more uncomfortable dating someone outside my class than outside my race. (Also, for some bizarre reason, three quarters or more of my exes have been vegetarian; I'm vegetarian myself, but it's not something I've consciously selected for).
I'd note that for my brother and sister, it seems the other way round; both are in long-term relationships with partners of different class backgrounds, but neither of them have ever had a non-white partner. I don't know that it's a conscious thing on their part, but they also seem relatively disinterested in other countries and cultures. For example, I've lived abroad for a majority of my adult life, and speak five languages, while for them, "abroad" is a place you go on holiday.
In my case, I think my xenophilia is deep-seated, maybe even innate; I remember even as a young kid being fascinated by other countries and cultures (e.g., at 10 years old I was reading books on Japanese etiquette!). It wouldn't surprise me if it's a kind of "social polymorphism" related to neophilia and neophobia; perhaps there's some early life trigger that pushes you one way or the other.
Also in a long term “interracial” relationship and this rings extremely true. I am Turkish (we are sort of a blank spot in American race taxonomy but I am quite Mediterranean personally) and my partner is Latin American. I have dated quite widely across nationalities in the past and typically I felt very comfortable with people of similar social levels no matter where they are from and pretty uncomfortable with Turkish women of much lower or higher social classes. The world is way too homogenised. Turns out we even watched set of cartoons growing up with my partner, two continents away from each other. The chances are no matter where you go, you will find someone who has a similar background to you and it will not correlate with skin color or skull shape too much.
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Just because you elaborate more here, I want to riff on my post below.
I'd argue you selecting by class, education and wealth filters for compatible genes to mix just as much, if not perhaps even better, that people who proxy by race. Arguably, it's probably only a reliable option for people who have the capacity, or are born into, a higher class.
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