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Culture War Roundup for the week of December 5, 2022

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If the link to the raw survey data is correct, here's the replies on condom use:

I typically don’t - 8.3%

For genital or anal penetration - 61.2%

Above options + oral, when giving - 16.5%

Above options + oral, when giving and receiving - 7.9%

I don’t perform any of the above activities - 4.1%

PIV + oral when giving always, + oral when receiving as I feel like it – 0.4%

Depends on the price. $300 is condom, if they pay more then no condom. No protection for oral ever – 0.4%

All services are covered – 0.4%

Some of the replies are one person only, so I do see the objections about inadequate sample size. 8% is more than I would expect to never use condoms but maybe they have regular clients and are aware of STI status. I agree with sliders1234 below - I doubt she's getting replies from streetwalkers (that seemed to be part of the salt in the comments about sex workers who exclusively see clients in person not book online) so the lower end of the market isn't being represented here. If we're talking about prostitutes who charge hundreds of dollars per hour, that's for the higher end of the market and that makes sense as regards (1) slimmer prostitutes make more money and (2) STI risk is covered either by both client and prostitute are regularly tested and only work when disease-free.

The lower paid ones who work in-person can be fatter but also need to be more careful around condom use since they're seeing random guys with no idea who is going to give them the clap.