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But one absolutely can not function in a society without trusting somebody with something.

You are patently wrong. I don't trust anybody.

You go to a store and you trust the owner not to murder you, feed your body to the pigs and take your money.

No, I don't.

You put your money in the bank and you trust the bank not to refuse to give it back, or the society to be on your side if they do.

No, I don't.

You get employed and you trust your employer to pay you and not to sell your data to the identity thieves and ghost you, etc.

No. I don't.

Sidenote: before you say "I actually never trust anybody, I grow my own food on the top of remote mountain and never speak to another human being unless I see them through the sights of my rifle, and only to procure ammunition for the said rifle, and I demand it upfront" - good for you

I don't say that.

We trust somebody many times a day if we live in a society, and in the most of these cases the trust is reciprocated with cooperation.

I don't think you have the slightest idea of what trust means and how society actually works.

Answer this: I ask a woman out for a date, do I trust that she is going to say yes?

I don't say that.

Effectively, you just did. You said "I don't trust anybody" (which is BS btw, you do, you are just not aware of it, and seem to deeply misunderstand how society works) just as I predicted you would, and ignored my warning that it's not about you personally.

I don't think you have the slightest idea of what trust means and how society actually works.

Well, you think wrong, but of course I don't have any means to convince you in that because you'd just contradict every argument without even bother with counter-argument, so we're at impasse here. I guess you will remain at the idea that only fools can be ever deceived and defections only happen to bad people (or stupid people?) - right until the day where your trust goes wrong (and it happens with every person once in a while) and you'd have one of two ways - either recognize yourself as a complete failure, for failing to uphold your own high standards, or recognize that things work not entirely like you thought they are, and come out of it more grown up and enriched with knowledge. I am very curious which way you will choose.

I ask a woman out for a date, do I trust that she is going to say yes?

Of course not. But you trust her, for example, not to call the police and accuse you of rape, when you show up, or not to drug you, take out your organs while you're unconscious and sell it on the black market. Sorry, I'm afraid I spoiled dating for you.

Effectively, you just did.

No, I did not. You are committing a converse error fallacy.

I guess you will remain at the idea that only fools can be ever deceived

You have no idea what I believe, because you refuse to listen when I tell you directly: "I did not say that". I know what I said, and only I know what I meant, and I know that you don't know what I meant, and when I tell you directly, you completely ignore me and keep believing I said what I most definitely did not.

I ask a woman out for a date, do I trust that she is going to say yes?

Of course not.

Then why did I ask her out?

  • p: I trust a woman will say yes

  • q: I ask her out

p ⇒ q

If I did trust a woman will say yes, then I would ask her out, but if I ask her out, you do see how that would be a fallacy to conclude that I trust she was going to say yes (converse error fallacy), yes?

Therefore you cannot assume I did trust some outcome based on some action. By the exact same token if I go to the store you cannot assume that I trusted any outcome, including me not being murdered. I am rolling the die.

If p I trust I'll roll a 7, then q I roll the die, but q me rolling the die doesn't imply p I trust I'll roll a 7. There are obviously other reasons why I would roll the die, including me hoping--not trusting--that I'll get a 7.

You assume that me engaging in some activity necessarily imples trust, you are 100% wrong.

Therefore you cannot assume I did trust some outcome based on some action

No but I can assume you trust the things would happen according to certain model. E.g. if you ask the woman out, you would expect her either agree, or politely decline. You do not expect her to call the police or her relatives to murder you on the spot for assaulting her honor. Because if you admitted there's a certain non-negligible probability of that, you wouldn't try to ask such a woman out. That's what I am trying to explain to you. Your model of what could happen is the trust that is inherent in all your actions. It is necessary because nobody can account for the infinity of all possible outcomes and accurately predict them. So you trust (or "hope", same thing here) that the model for the situation you use, while inevitably incomplete and inaccurate, is accurate enough for your purposes. Ans yes, that does mean engaging in any activity where you have to model the outcomes implies trust. In yourself, and in others.

Your model of what could happen is the trust that is inherent in all your actions.

You are wrong. The word trust means to "rely on", I don't rely on her not calling the police, that's something you assume, but you don't know my mental state, only I know that, and I'm telling you emphatically that I do not rely on that. You think you can read my mind, but you can't.

you don't know my mental state

I don't have to - I know about human behavior enough to know that a person who thinks asking a woman out would end up with him murdered or in jail, would not ask a woman out (unless he's suicidal or wants to end up in jail as part of his plan to become the next Count of Monte Cristo, but I trust/hope/assume that's not what you are).

You think you can read my mind, but you can't.

I don't need to, if I can observe your behavior and if I can assume you not entirely unlike a typical human. Of course, if you are an alien sent to Earth with the specific purpose to troll me, I'd be wrong every time.

I know about human behavior enough to know that a person who thinks asking a woman out would end up with him murdered or in jail

Which has absolutely nothing to do with what I think.

I don't need to, if I can observe your behavior and if I can assume you not entirely unlike a typical human.

Converse error fallacy.