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Would the uneven pull of your roommate make more sense if you interpreted it from a conflict theory rather than mistake theory perspective? If it's only a mistake, then as you suggest it should be fixed already, but given it's been wearing on you over time, maybe it's a conflict. That doesn't necessarily mean your roommate is malicious, just that they are wired differently from you, and would rather avoid chores even if that means the place is less clean or efficiently run.
At which point you'll have a choice. Either design a system that allows a judicious outcome even when the two participants are fundamentally in conflict in some aspects, or move as soon as you can in seek of an environment without a conflicting party. Both easier said than done, of course.
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