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Culture War Roundup for the week of April 14, 2025

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they do not really get off on the idea of showering with a bunch of random women who can see their dick

While I accept that there exist people for whom this is true (possibly even the majority), there have been enough high-profile cases the other direction (many such cases) that I don't think this statement is a good one around which to design policy.

I am fine with a policy of "no dicks (of people older than eight or whatever) in communal women's showers". (I would still very much prefer to add single stall showers for people who do not clearly pass as one or the other gender -- making a transwoman who is taking hormones and has tits shower with a bunch of guys also is not a good outcome.)

Broadly I'd agree with you, as a man who's never gotten used to nude communal spaces. I can change quickly at the gym if I have to, but I generally avoid communal showers anyway. But I know some cultures embrace it more generally (saunas and such).

Individual stalls are nice, but it's hard not to see that it's a more expensive option (more stalls, more fixtures, more maintenance). The West is probably rich enough to afford it many places, but it is using resources that could conceivably be used elsewhere, and I understand if some communities decide to do so.