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If you're trying to say that there's no value to male sex toys, but there is value to female toys, then I don't follow. Can a woman not stick her fingers inside of her vagina, or rub her clit using only her hands?
I'm saying is there enough value to justify the logistical tail? A Hitachi literally plugs into the wall but it's worth it. Is there anything with that kind of value add for penis-focused guys? (I'm sure there are tons of excellent things to put in your asshole if that's your jam.)
Well, I'm no expert, but if I wanted to steelman the position that male sex toys are worth it, I'd say that the biggest difference between vaginal sex and manual masturbation is that vaginal sex is very wet. So maybe the biggest value-add is in something that lubricates.
For that matter, the only thing I ever did which was similar to buying a male sex toy was when I once bought some masturbation cream. It was advertised as that it was supposed to make your hand feel just like a vagina when the cream heats up. But I wasn't impressed, it wasn't worth it, didn't actually feel at all like vaginal sex, and had annoying cleanup.
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