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PaperclipPerfector  1mo ago (text post)   2555 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for February 21, 2025

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Congratulations, that's great! Best of wishes to you.

Communicate lots about money, and blend your finances as much as you possibly can. There is no "yours" and "mine" anymore, there is only "ours." You live in a tiny commune now, and it will succeed or fail based primarily on your joint commitment to its continued success.

Have sex frequently. What this means specifically depends a lot on the individuals involved, but roughly "more often than the lower-libido spouse prefers, but aim for at least 75% of the way from there toward what the higher-libido spouse prefers."

Have children, assuming you don't already.

Don't begrudge your spouse your labor. You're lucky to have someone to work with on the long term project that is now your family unit. Intelligent division of labor creates efficiencies that can do wonders for what each of you can accomplish (it doesn't take twice the time to do twice the laundry, or twice the prep time to cook for twice the mouths, e.g.). Leverage it together and enjoy the dividends together!

Have fun!

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