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Maintaining relationship is work. Do it diligently. Don't be afraid to remind your partner you appreciate them (may be too early, but still never hurts), find a form of doing it that's compatible with their temperament.
Accept that you're both humans, eventually you'll screw up and have to ask for forgiveness, and your partner will screw up and need forgiveness from you. Accept that sometimes you'll piss each other off (maybe not, if you're super lucky but usually at least sometimes) and that's just life, and remind yourself why you are together. Communicate, even if sometimes it may take an effort and be hard to do.
Learn to give each other space when you need it. Some people need to be alone sometimes (yes, even alone from their loving partner) and that doesn't mean the love is gone. Many people need to have their own things in addition to "our things" - that's ok too. Supporting your partner in being them is much better than trying to change them.
Yes, agree with not keeping score - if you're in for the long run, keeping score is only going to make trouble. The only fair thing is what you both feel is fair, and that's something you need to find out by communicating. Don't feel you need to conform to any outside notions of what you relationship should look like.
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