The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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How compatible do the women you go on dates with seem when you are setting things up? I found my current partner via a dating app. I always thought the app was just a means to go on a date with a girl, where I could get a much better idea of how compatible we were. In retrospect, it was incredibly obvious even talking over the app how compatible my partner and I are (and how incompatible I was with everyone else I spoke with).
Be very open about what you are looking for and why someone might be looking for you on your profile. Make sure you include the stuff you have included here about where you want the relationship to go. If not wanting to get married in the future is a dealbreaker, include it! This will save you a lot of time and effort.
If you feel like you are wasting time going on dates, go on less dates. You can spend more time talking on the app or via text messages. You seem to have a decent idea of what you are looking for and are good at written communication. Just weed out more people online. If it feels like a drag to go on a date, don't do it.
Good advice. I think I'm honestly too open to giving people chances whereas the dates I've been on where it worked out (at least short term) things just clicked fast.
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