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Good lord I’m jealous. Sounds like an incredibly nice life you got there friend.
No worries, I definitely understand that things aren't all peaches and roses and a high-paying job isn't the end all be-all. I don't envy your super high paying job nearly as much as the fact that you have an in demand skillset (programming) that you seem to be extremely talented at and actually enjoy.
The way I see it you could easily leave your high paying job and get a job making 150k or so, but being much more satisfied with your life and having a better balance. That's what I would do in your shoes. Unfortunately I don't have that skillset and can't enjoy coding so I'm stuck doing jobs I don't like for far less money than you.
Anyway, hope you find what you are looking for.
I'm in a career where working hard is pretty mandatory and everything you do is minutely tracked so you can't really get away with slacking hours unless you're in a less demanding, lower paid job. I grinded at multiple high paying jobs jumping around trying to find the 'cushy' gig but wasn't able to and eventually burned out real hard from stress.
Anecdotally I know a lot of programmers, and they tend to have pretty damn sweet gigs. Folks like you making hundreds of thousands a year for like 30 hours a week. Sure being willing to optimize your career is part of that, but I think it's pretty rare to find that level of compensation for anything less than 50-60 hours of work in any other field. Maybe I'm wrong but that's the imperssion I get from the outside looking in.
Well that's the thing - it's a tradeoff. To put it another way, most people probably already live in a shittier house/city but don't have the option of either working less or making globs and globs of money.
To your question about would it be more fun, I guess it depends? For me I would love to be good enough / in demand enough to pick and choose companies I work for, and ideally join a team I really like while doing something I truly care about. Unfortunately that takes quite a bit of career capital, and in some cases actual capital if I would want to find a well paying job like that.
All this being said I have managed to find a good role for myself that I enjoy, but only by going all in on a startup and agreeing to take a pretty big risk working for a few months without any pay, only sweat equity.
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