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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 24, 2022

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There was a great comment on the Motte (or perhaps even SSC, it was that long ago) in which the husband of a schoolteacher opined that his wife had noted that it was almost never the prettiest girl in class, or the handsome football player, who came out as trans. A cursory glance at trans forums and even, occasionally, at the writing of trans people online makes clear this is the case. The "incel to trans" pipeline is widely noted, and we might add the "ugly girl to trans" pipeline to it.

Could there be a confounding variable here, i.e. someone uncomfortable with being a man/woman might not be comfortable with putting effort into looking more attractive, as it usually means looking masculine/feminine? Or are these people really irreparably ugly?

I know one fantastically handsome (he was already modelling and I am sure he had a future) gay guy who transitioned in his 20s but other than literally every case I have witnessed confirms very well with the OPs description. The meek, awkward, ugly and shy.

One exception is the girls who first get into queer theory and only afterwards start playing with gender bending. Typically they are pretty in my experience and don’t go to far down the rabbit hole.

"Lesbian until graduation" phenomenon?

I truly hope so because I am worried about some people I know who is going down this path.