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I think your peer group in childhood and adolescence plays a greater role in who you are attracted to than your own or your parent's race, though perhaps with some weighting according to the hierarchy observed anecdotally and in the OkCupid dataset i.e. East Asian women and White men being considered slightly more attractive by everyone. Looking at the edge cases, none of the Asian adoptees I knew who grew up in White supermajority communities or the single digit number of Black students who attended my elite high school seemed romantically interested in their co-ethnics.
There is a confounding factor here in many cases though, which is that the kind of person likely to move to an ethnically diverse community or one where they will be a tiny minority is likely higher in openess to experience to begin with, which would correlate with a willingness to date or marry outside their race. To the extent that this trait is heritable they will pass it on to their children who grow up in such an environment.
Absolutely true of me. I do think it’s a weighted average of (a) parents, (b) peer group and (c) whatever factors drive the OKC data (slight bonus for white men and East Asian women, malus for black women)
The specific weights probably depend on how close one is to one’s parents (I have a fairly terrible relationship with mine) and how open (in the Big 5 sense) one is. In my specific case, if I’m being totally honest, a big part of it is also a thirst to prove myself, to prove that I am special and can attract a beautiful, high-status woman on my own terms without settling for an arranged marriage like a typical brown beta chump. Incidentally, my favorite Shakespearean drama is Othello
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