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This reminds me of variations of the saying "men don't red-pill men; women do" and "the red-pill is the easiest cause to be a part of: women do the recruiting for you." The same women making these Facebook groups are likely the same women who would seethe and insist polygyny, female carousel-riding, and female mate choice-copying are but misogynistic incel/red-pill myths.
But I don't know about unscrupulous. Building and maintaining a well-diversified plate portfolio sounds pretty scrupulous to me, good risk management and reduction of idiosyncratic risk.
Just the usual double standards when it comes to doxxing in general. Women doxxing men is women bravely holding men accountable; men doxxing women is men creepily harassing and threatening women. A few years back a man created a webtool to search porn videos for a woman's likeness (use case would be any man looking to thot-patrol his girlfriend or wife's past); it was quickly shut down.
And when it is rediscovered for the N'th time that in fact women do lie, it Just So Happens the falsely accused men had it coming anyway. Trevor Bauer was a toxic asshole, the Duke Lacrosse team was a bunch of rich misogynistic douches, that UVA frat was well, filled with bunch of frat guys and thus deserved to get taken down a peg.
Keeping the marriage and wife secret is optional. Chicks dig married men.
And it sounds like, by their own words, women are easily duped by men. Surely this means we should just update our priors even further as to how shitty and mendacious men are, and definitely not question our priors as to women's ability to be strong, independent thinkers and decision-makers.
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