The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
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Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
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Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
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The basics are to take her two different bars, one quieter where you can have a "real" conversation and beat her at pool or connect 4, then a second louder one where she's forced to lean in to hear you speak which gives you good kino opportunities. Look for some favorite media you have in common or if you have a pet and she's interested in meeting them and use that as a link to invite her home. If she says she has to leave ask her if she wants to listen to music in your car and kiss her, you'll likely seal the deal on a second date. But like I said most men who are failing are making mistakes that I can point out, it varies a lot but usually has to do with coming off too polite and like you're putting too much effort into getting her out which screams desperation and that you have too much time on your hands. To identify any other mistake would take a longer conversation.
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