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Math and Programming
I will be upping my math academy numbers from 2 hours to 3 daily and also aim for 1-3 hours for both boot.dev and HTML and CSS stuff. I have been having the same issues I have always had but no matter how badly I may fuck up, I would at least do math. I feel silly for not having done math more seriously in the past, maybe its the adhd meds (concerta), humility to take the long route or math academy, likely all three but I do like it. I am on their maths foundations course which is basic high school and uni level math (first year). I am on Math Foundations 2 of their 3 courses and will finish it by early Jan if I do bump my pace up to three hours. After that Math Foundations 2 should be done by February and by the end of March I will be through with Math for Machine Learning and can then do things like probability and stats, multivariable calculus, linear algebra, methods of proof and have a base of math for the rest of my life. I may start with hardcore ML once I know enough math, will see and will post so that you folks can suggest stuff.
It is all very convenient too, I don't need a book, just my laptop, the 50 dollar a month subscription and some rough sheets. My immediate circle has close to zero ML engineers and I am unemployed at 24 so I do want to get a job soon hence the webdev stuff (frontend plus boot.dev), I am somewhat confident that having a good understanding of math would help me since this was my undoing in uni. I did fuck up schedule-wise last week so my main priorities are still waking up early and getting to work as soon as I can.
There is some satisfaction in the math stuff, even boot.dev though I have not done much, I can see myself progressing in a very transparent real way, I never did before so yeah. 42 hours a week, sounds like a real job.
Miscellaneous
On the meditation and physical side, I did finally hit a day of multiple short sits (5 minutes) and a long one (24 minutes). My first time doing 24 minutes in a session. I have been rehabbing my shoulder somewhat more regularly, my lifts are still very weak in the gym but I have skipped just one day in three months. Lets see what working close to 7 hard hours for 6 days is like.
I picked up the great divorce by CS Lewis and want to post book reviews regularly, would it fine if I just posted them on the Friday thread or would it be better to make a substack and crosspost here, I do not want to fuck up the quality of the forum. Have a dentist appointment scheduled today, might get my remaining two wisdom teeth removed too
Some words on being grateful
My aunt is visiting our hometown and staying at our house with her former schoolmate, both came for a high school reunion event, and her friend told my mother about her daughter who had an onset of Dyslexia at age 15 and how that wrecked her life, cascading into very real psychological issues since then. She told her family that she is visiting my city because she had to give a lecture as saying that she was going there for a reunion to meet friends would hurt her daughter as she has no friends. Long-time viewers here would note that my brother is not far off from her daughter but he seems beyond normal when compared to people with actual issues. Having your child go through such pain would wreck me if I were a parent. We take life for granted, having kids who are healthy, normal and well-adjusted sounds trivial until you encounter these issues in life. I have always had a soft spot for people with actual mental illnesses, they are outcasted from society and their parents get zero support from society. In case you are a parent and your kids came out fine, please do thank your god.
I visit my psychiatrist once a month, seeing people with severe autism and other ailments causes emotional turmoil. My parents have some sense of pride in me having gone from a complete trainwreck outcaste of an academic failure at age 17 to having done really well to the point where I was featured in local papers by 19. In ways they sincerely believe that I can do enough to make their sacrifices worth it, give them a better life, and have a far better youth than they did. It would be so crushing to not have that and instead be worried sick about what would happen to your kid if you passed away and lost your job.
There is a lot to be grateful for in life, not in some fake religious or self-help gratitude journaling sense. One of the last great saints in Hinduism who I disagree with on almost everything began his work by telling the reader how rare being a human is, of all life forms, you get to be the only one with a consciousness that is capable of experiencing divinity in a real sense. I am very fortunate, despite all the bad things I have done, god is kind, kinder to me than I would be.
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