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Spending 3x more to prolong the life of terminally old people for a couple of months is perverse. You can't cheat death. Gompertz rule is unbeatable.
I have relatives who are doctors and this saddens them too. Relatives demanding heroic medical procedures for someone so decrepit they'd have probably die next year anyway if it wasn't for their dire medical emergency.
Common claim from them is that the less they cared about the ancestor when they were healthy, the more demanding they are on medicalll procedures to show they care.
I am often thinking about how I must take a one way walk into the woods once I become too weak to take care of myself, even if I end up having a family. All things end, and if I'm 87, cognitively declining, unable to even read consistently, why fight it?
My grandpa was..beginning to be senile. Insisted on getting his beginning bowel cancer fixed. Anaesthesia made him go from slow, rigid , 5% totally confused to 66% confused, requiring constant supervision. Died 8 months later. He never liked me for understandable reasons but I still wish I hadn't seen him even once in his last months. He was a formidable man when younger, so it was pretty sad to see it even briefly.
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