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Social norms can in fact change because modern social norms are themselves due to change.
While it is true that working, having stable relationship and marriage are good, and it is commendable you follow them, your overemphasis on education is something I find more disagreeable
Part of what is modern education includes propaganda and miseducation. When it comes to people acquiring skills, and that is in fact part of education too but there is also credentialism and the fact that education leads to the unbalanced less fertile modernity way of living. So education becomes a tragedy of the commons at some point since you might benefit individually to have X credential, but society suffers from too much time wasted on that.
I disagree with valuing $ and social climbing above all. This idea of people leaving their area for high income schools is the way of progress results in people abandoning their communities instead of improving them and having a common ethos. Why leave for just higher income schools and not go to a different place altogether. It can be the case, maybe less in the USA, or places like Fishtown that certain schools aren't high income but are made by people who come from stable families.
There is something ugly about social striver modernity type of ethos. And I notice that part of that also includes a disdain towards blue collar work. Low skilled janitors are an expectation but we need competent people to be doing some blue collar works.
Take the Amish. https://www.f0xr.com/p/the-amish-fertility-miracle-part
Who are competent and do mainly blue collar work. Are rooted parts of their community rather than migrants with no strong ties to a place. Have plenty of children, and live in stable relationships but don't empathize education and follow strict religious norms. Have in general strong guidance and a set path to follow as a people. Have stronger gender roles. And of course don't personally use some of the modern technology. I am not saying everyone should be Amish, but I find your approach strays too much to the opposite side on some key issues and it isn't really the template for everyone to follow.
I think you'd also like Chris Arnade's Dignity, so let me recommend it here once again.
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