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I would suspect the former.
Per Blanchard's typology, the former man pattern-matches far closer to "autogynephiliac". As such, assuming she isn't attracted to him, she will have to fend him off in much the same way she would have to with a straight man who doesn't take the hint. She will feel uncomfortable getting changed in front of him or going to the bathroom, as he will be more or less openly leering at her. If she's straight, she can rebuff his advances by claiming she's not interested in "girls"; if she's a lesbian, she will have to put up with his emotionally manipulative whining about the "cotton ceiling". All of her discomfort will be greatly exacerbated by how physically imposing he is relative to her.
By contrast, again per Blanchard's typology, the latter man pattern-matches far closer to "effeminate homosexual with internalised homophobia". As such, he is unlikely to have any sexual interest in her at all, and she can interact with him in much the same way she would her gay best friend (including getting changed in front of him etc.). Although they are nominally competing for men's sexual/romantic attention, they both know that the kind of man who's interested in dating a trans woman is not the kind of man she's interested in dating.
In short, the former is a straight man in a space for women; the latter is a gay man in a space for women, with all that that implies.
First time I've heard of this typology. Will have a look. Thanks for the reply!
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