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PaperclipPerfector  2d ago (text post)   1095 thread views

Wellness Wednesday for November 27, 2024

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It's real, despite your brief acquaintance, and your sorrow is understandable

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I suspect a big contributor to anyone blaming these girls for their fate is the tendency of humans to turn tragedy into a morality play. Sometimes bad things just happen, and there's nothing anyone could reasonably have done differently

A friend of mine told me the same thing yesterday, most people dont travel, dont want to travel and dont want you travelling, you can replace travel with any kind of action and plenty of detractors spring up. Many times, bad things just happen.

Very, very often, that actionable lesson is "drugs and alcohol are a completely unnecessary risk."

I could have collapsed in Pai given the things I took and I am not even a regular user, I just did it for the novelty. In this case, it truly was random because this hostel in particular has always been shady, deleting reviews, giving you free shots for a good review, paying off cops.

explains some of your sadness. These girls were not a cautionary tale, to you; they were people you knew. And now they're gone, and that's a tragedy regardless of how it came about, or what lessons may or may not be taken from it.

I will see more people die at higher frequencies each passing year and they would be far closer as death comes for all. Every moment in your life happens only once, no matter how much I wish for it to be otherwise. My week in Pai was magical and I wanted to try to write down things in ways that would show my appreciation towards them. It felt like another life and they were good people. My life is fairly turbulent, I found quite a bit of relief bumming around, theirs was not and it is a shame that they never got to live out more of it. A big regret I always have is not concentrating on the present moment, stuck in the future or the past, at least I made the most of what I had with them and going forward I aim to make even more out of my life.

Some day soon I will fix my issues and do a whole lot of degenerate things I want to as a young dude, till then I am happy I got to at least experience things I did.

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