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Can you?
Because the actual answer to how hard it is, is "not at all, actually". This is way, way more projection than anything any of us actually feel -- save those who have been bullied and belittled into thinking they should feel that way. But as someone who has been anti-religious since early primary school it has not been difficult in the slightest to deal with. If anything, seeing the state of women in 2024, I feel lucky. Blessed, even.
Anyway, I don't think the reason most ordinary people take against trans is disgust in any case. I think it's the entitlement.
99.9% of the population are supposed to change their manner of speaking and the rules for this 0.1%, who aren't ever even grateful for any kind of effort, but just make more and more demands once any inches are given. If you do not believe a man can become a woman, an incredibly common belief, you are supposed to never ever voice this belief, and indeed act and speak contrary to it at all times, because it is your responsibility, your duty, to reinforce these people's identities at all times. But they'll still fucking despise you despite it.
And don't you dare try to exclude them from your dating pool, even if they have the wrong genitals! That's -phobic, makes you a "genital fetishist" and "not really gay, since you only like dick and not men" and that means they get to call for your death on public social media and that's justified and totally fine. Bigot!
Nah. Fuck 'em.
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