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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 14, 2024

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Approximately no one dates based on politics.

Leftists disqualifying potential romantic partners for not being sufficiently leftist is absolutely a thing.

yeah. funnily enough, this scenario has kinda happened to me in real life. I'm not planning to vote because (a) don't live in a swing state and (b) don't have a strong preference either way. But when I say that to single ladies they hate it. they demand that I vote. I wonder what would happen if I was like "ok, i'll go vote for trump then..." maybe they would like that better?

I got dumped a few weeks ago, and while I there where some other issues I don’t think she could see past the fact that I’m not a progressive

Just say you don't talk about politics and/or that it's none of their buisiness. It is socially acceptable to berate people for not voting, and it is socially acceptable to berate people for voting Republican, but it is not (yet) socially acceptable to berate people into telling who they voted for.

Im pretty sure that if i said that, they'd instantly guess that im voting republican (or some weird libertaruan 3rd party)

And in many cases, ‘some weird libertarian third party’ is itself bad enough

I recognize my demographics and interests make it much more visible to me, but as existence proofs go…

Try it and report back. Perhaps this is one of those "shit tests" I hear so much from the Red Pill folks about.