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All else equal, I would agree that having children would be modestly, causatively correlated with some conception of a soulful existence, but I don’t think having children is a necessary or sufficient condition for such an existence. There are hundreds of millions of parents around the world I would not characterize as soulful, not that I really care for or think of soulfulness beyond something adjacent to or a combination of related concepts such as self-awareness, consciousness, sentience.
Funnily enough, the two sons one daughter arrangement is something that a few girls I’ve dated have mused about unprompted. A spiritual heir and spare for me, and a cUtE little mini-me for her to dress up and do girly things with like shopping, going to the spa, painting their nails. If capped to three, in isolation I’d still prefer heir, spare, spare’s spare though.
I’d like to have a whole squad of children one day, I’m just in no hurry to do so. If I procrastinate long enough (more time in which my net worth continues to grow), I can even fatfire, use surrogates and eggdonors, and SAHD, thus not having to deal with a wife. The IVF would also enable embryo sex selection.
I generally don’t relay anecdotes much less major life events online anywhere close to real time. So who knows, maybe I already have had children, intentionally or not *laughs hedonistically*.
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