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This makes me curious as to what the threshold for “filthy rich” is, in that, this isn’t an adult with a career buying a $140,000 car for themselves, but an adult buying one for a child of theirs with a still-developing frontal lobe.
Also the bit about the in-crowd rules reminds me of college. I’m from a northern state, and I was a pretty good high school football player, had some D2 interest, but went to a D1 school down south as I was’t delusional about my chances of being a professional athlete. The school had intramural flag football, and there was a separate Greek league for the frats to play each other and they took it rather seriously, held practices.
In the dorm league you have to play with guys from your dorm, so I joined that freshman year and did well. I got asked to play for an open division team my second semester that had three guys from the same frat who wanted to play more than once a week on their frat team. As before, I did quite well on that team, too.
I was also in a shitty rock band that I’d joined from answering a flyer.
Anyway, those three frat guys from my open league team, toward the end of that second semester, asked me if I wanted to come over “to the house” for some beers. The invite was for the same time as my shitty band’s practice, so I politely declined. Never got a social invite from them, again. Assuming I traversed one of those in-crowd rules.
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