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It's voluntary, but when it comes to the Delta Gamma of this email (assuming that the email is real), that's probably about all the good that one can say about it. That person who wrote that email is not psychologically healthy, or probably even close to it. The way it describes the sorority makes it seem much like a cult. There is no good reason for a sorority house to be run like a stereotypical finance boiler room from a 1980s movie.
Off-topic, but Michael Shannon did a dramatic reading of the DG email for Funny or Die and it's glorious.
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I've gotten emails like that about brothers leaving pots and pans in the sink, so partly there's a difference in communication style. One thing that happens reasonably often with frats/sororities is that an officer in one of the more socially neck-stuck-out positions (rush chair, social chair, VP alumni (god forbid)) will lose their shit because they're feeling hung out to dry by the rest of the brother/sisterhood. These positions fundamentally suck because there's an expectation in Greek life to be way more sociable than almost any person would want to be - with the idea that different people will come in and out but the group as an aggregate will fill out events and provide good vibes - but there's always a danger you'll hit a collective slump in energy/interest/whatever among the group and then it's you getting humiliated in front of the world and your brothers/sisters. Obviously, it's women at UA, and she seems high-strung even by those standards, so a long way from a chill fraternity, but her email basically seems plausible for a social chair or similar officer facing public underperformance to have a performative freakout in the hope the cats she's herding will do their part.
If the sender was the President, that's, uh, very much another story, but the prez of a frat/sorority has a unique role as the university/legal relations face of the frat.
Agreed. I read a leader managing her club members by pointing at a number of perceived failures that have been brought to her attention. The failures may seem crazy to normal people, but for someone invested in the organization, who cares about the status involved, it probably is sensible enough. A straight forward I'm gonna give you three seconds, exactly three fucking seconds to wipe that stupid looking grin off your face or I will gouge out your eyeballs and skull-fuck you. memo.
This writer is responsible for a club exclusively filled with young people going through first time experiences. Those young people do dumb things that reflect badly on her organization and have to be taught otherwise. Regularly, I would guess. She probably doesn't have leadership experience to draw upon except for the leadership of the person who previously filled the role. This communication technique and style has likely been optimized for dealing with 19 year old kids that don't know jack shit, don't care about anything but sex and booze, and will repeatedly embarrass everyone around them unless dealt with appropriately. Sororities are filled with the same age range that attends boot camp. Coincidence?
It's not my own leadership style and it might be an exceptionally American context, but I wouldn't write up any psychological profiles just because an internal memo is brash. Keep the brats in line, I say.
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The fact that that's newsworthy at all, and is from ten years ago, suggests to me that that sort of extreme pressure is an exception not the rule
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