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At face value, she seems to be insane.
Asking someone their birthday is such utterly normal behavior that it devalues the rest.
The first, without additional evidence provided should also be dismissed as nothing. Resembling a celebrity chef is not an issue. And so is friending her on Facebook.
People causing trouble because the other party genuinely is treating them rather badly (not, this job by its nature is tough), is one thing. When the case appears frivolous it should be dismissed.
Ideally women spent more time as mothers in today's world with low fertility rates.
While there are issues that might arise from men and women working togethe, I find this a cope in this situation since the problem is unreasonable behavior. By their nature, women are probably more in line to be compatible with unreasonable complaint culture, if they are indulged to. For another example, Men are more likely to sexually harass in a genuine way and also to be targets of false accusations.
Both men and women should operate under rules to not cause unreasonable trouble to their coworkers, and where the job's rules, doesn't violate basic interaction or encourages social isolation. We want people to be able to even build friendships and even gasp families with coworkers.
As with all issues, there is no way to escape making a judgement and being resolute, and reasonable judgements that take a stand is how you avoid such behaviors. When those in charge fail to do their duties and shut down such behaviors, and judge the frivolous, as frivolous, you are going to get insane accusations over bullshit. So in this case, based on the facts as they appear now, higher ups should have a talk with her and explain how accusing someone of harassment is a serious issue and how her complaints do not constitute harassment, but her accusation does.
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