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@aiislove To expand on that a bit: From my own perspective, a gay relationship is supposed to be a pleasant escape from the Red Queen’s Rat Race. As someone who doesn't seem to be eligible for the runner's high, strength training is fucking miserable; the only enjoyable part of strenuous exercise is being massaged while sore afterwards; why would I bother for anyone who isn't packing gametes capable of co-producing an actual child with mine?
If you think that this relationship is really such an underrated delight, and vastly superior to the asymmetric relationship you're “frustrated” at seeing Americans, Western Europeans, and the Japanese bidding en masse for one particular side of, why not make the case for that per se, leaving out the speculative tangents about racial trends in sex roles and your own power struggles with your father?
It seems like the case would need to be made in 2 legs, which are separate and each quite a hard sell:
*So you might consider making a case against all the low-testosterone Americans, Western Europeans, and Japanese…
https://slatestarcodex.com/2013/02/18/typical-mind-and-gender-identity/
https://web.archive.org/web/20220813174845/https://zerohplovecraft.wordpress.com/2019/10/22/god-shaped-hole/
…and convincing them for, maybe, a renaissance of “real”, spiritually-charged, Greek-style homosexuality?
https://www.greek-love.com/general-non-fiction-pederasty/the-symposium-by-plato
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