The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
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Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
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Anyone got advice on how to cope with being cheated on/breakup? Long story short, was in a long distance relationship for 5 months. One in a million type of situation, was in her city on vacation, on last day was browsing geo tagged photos on IG and saw her, slid in her DMs. Surprisingly, she responded by the time I was already home. Got attached to each other right away, 10 hour calls, calling/texting each other as soon as we wake up, working/eating/sleeping 'together', went on a few trips together. 2 months ago she said she was going on vacation with family. Came across pictures from the person she was cheating with from the same location, guess he didn't get the memo. Thought I would just get over it with time, but I'm approaching 3 months mark since it all happened and still feeling the same way as on day 1. Been killing myself at the gym, doesn't seem to help. Tried my best to remove any reminders of her from my life but at this point it's muscle memory to check her socials as soon as I'm on my phone. Tried getting on dating apps, but keep catching myself looking for same features or style in other women. I'm running out of ideas of what to do, my last similar situation was in college and back then this difficult post breakup period happened at the same time as exams, so I just got myself together and focused on studying and by the time it all ended I was over it.
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