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Even if they are share some base similarities societies do not treat them the same. In the case of the latter Western liberal society has declared that sexual matters that take place between consenting adults are generally not a matter for the whole of society to litigate or can claim a stake, whereas cheating at public games is considered fair game for everyone.
This view would be seen as dangerously naive or even degenerate by some other parts of the world, but it is nominally the view of liberals - especially the progressive side.
So it is interesting - and odd - that so much time is being consumed by "mere" adultery. At least the Try Guys case involves some sort of work element (even then I question whether anything about this is healthy), I'm really baffled why a) we're supposed to care about a rock star cheating and b) these women coming out of the woodwork expect sympathy for at best being willfully ignorant about a rock star cheating (and apparently got some!).
The current state of these norms is an absolute mess. You cannot judge private business unless you can, you're responsible for what you do until you're not, you're a consenting adult until you're suddenly a child...of twenty-something years,
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