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Culture War Roundup for the week of July 22, 2024

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I skimmed the piece. I read the first few paragraphs, already starting to doze. Then I got to this line:

Florida developers are a fairly cagey lot, so I’d decided that telling them the truth—“Hi! I’m interested in excoriating your fiefdom!”—was probably a non-starter. So I lied. I gave them a fake name, and even made an email account to go with it.

So guy goes to the Villages, already having made up his mind, and then just riffs on his own confirmation bias for 10 dreary pages.

I guess it's well-written, if you like that sort of Atlantic Monthly/New Yorker style. But it comes off as that most self-righteous and common form of virtue signal – the worry that someone, somewhere might actually be happy.

The Villages is a pretty interesting place from the perspective of urban development, and contains a lot of the things that liberals say that they want. We need more interesting experiments like it, and less sneering from depressed would-be novelists.

I've got a young child and my parents live interstate in the Australian equivalent of a Floridian retirement community.

We're fortunate to have the resources between us to enable visits back-and-forth with minimal stress, but I do definitely feel that it makes it hard to ensure the grandkids have as deep a bond with their grandparents as I'd ideally like. Also in my case my parents moved away a few years ago before grandkids were 'on the table', and as an unfathomably young parent in my demographic of 29 years old, that has to be somewhat increasingly common these days. I'm pretty sure if grandchildren were an ongoing concern prior to the move that it would have been enough to change the plans.