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Small-Scale Question Sunday for July 21, 2024

Do you have a dumb question that you're kind of embarrassed to ask in the main thread? Is there something you're just not sure about?

This is your opportunity to ask questions. No question too simple or too silly.

Culture war topics are accepted, and proposals for a better intro post are appreciated.

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Being the kind of gregarious and personable it takes to walk into a crowded bar by yourself and walk out with ten friends is like 95th+ percentile social skills and 90th+ percentile extraversion. Most people don’t ever do this, even if they’re otherwise normal, sociable, attractive, generally high quality people. Exceptions are the occasional college party or youth hostel bar in a foreign city in one’s youth, or maybe at a festival or a wedding (and even then…).

If you’re not extremely socially skilled I think a better approach would be just to meet one or two people at a time through work or existing friends and then slowly expand a social circle, which is how most people seem to do it.

meet one or two people at a time through work

I'm an unemployed, unemployable, disabled parasite on the working taxpayer.

or existing friends

I have three friends, all from grade school, two of whom I talk to maybe once or twice a year, and a third who I occasionally hang out with every few months. All are married, and the one I see most frequently has five kids. None have much time to spare, and most have pretty small IRL social circles themselves.