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If it makes you feel any better, I should be yet am not doing all those things, and don't have the excuse of being pregnant.
I really want kids, but having lived with a very talkative little kid for a few months the idea of spending years constantly worn out and never keeping a train of thought running is terrifying.
Its different with your own kids imo and you learn to deal with it. I used to be pretty awkward and easily annoyed around kids, nowadays I can spend hours even with other kids.
Also, you should simply keep them active. Most times when kids talk that much they aren't outside enough. And you can tell your kid to shut up once in a while, it's just that modern parents are absolute doormats way too often. But they're not gonna sit still, you need some activity for them to engage in, ideally you have some default things that you worked out together. For example, our daughter is three and on weekends if she wakes up earlier than us, if we tell her sternly that she can either come cuddle or do her own thing, but we will not get up earlier than ~8, she will just go to her art corner in the living room and draw things, or go to her toy kitchen and pretend-make coffee and so on.
In general my experience with having kids that things that I thought would be a problem weren't, and the problems were things that I wasn't aware of beforehand.
Can confirm on tuckering your kids out with physical activity.
My 2yo has just discovered she can sit on her sportsballs like a yoga ball. Naturally, I took mine out and showed her things I can do with my ball. Monkey see, monkey do. I get a little extra workout in by adding "dynamic resistance" to my movements (there's a proper term for it, but DDPYoga branding has broken my brain). She falls asleep within 30 minutes of being put to bed.
Keep them running, climbing, bouncing on large rubber balls. Keep em laughing. I expect this love-of-movement will help set her up for a glorious adulthood.
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I'm pretty sure I used to also behave this way before I had kids, it's just more obvious, because I can't just sit alone in a bookshop or park or something while being mildly depressed, I have to grudgingly get up and make someone else food. Which is, overall, not worse, possibly better, it just feels a bit worse.
Don't let the prospect of a chatterbox necessarily discourage you! There are options, I'm just not personally very good at finding and taking advantage of them. I hear kids used to find other kids in the neighborhood to play with, and then they would just go off and do that for hours a day. One of my co-workers is sending her school aged kids to three weeks of Parks & Rec discount camps, and maybe that will be me next year. Also, lots of kids are way calmer. I just seem to hang in the ADHD and autism spectrum part of society for some reason. My father built himself a detached study to smoke cigars and forbid his children from entering.
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